Update a re-imported event rather than skipping it

Contacts and calendars disagreed on a re-import: a vCard or LDIF entry
whose identity a book already held overwrote the card there (#242, #274),
while an event whose UID a calendar held was counted and thrown away
(#222). The asymmetry was never decided -- it was where each half stopped.

Decided on #279: calendars update too, with two properties held back.
`participants` carries every attendee's accepted/declined and
`recurrenceOverrides` holds every "just this Wednesday" edit made here.
Both are decisions taken after the file was written, and a file that
mentions them at all describes them as they were at export, so writing
either one over would destroy work silently and return no error. A
corrected export now fixes the time, the title and the location, and
leaves who said yes alone. `uid` is held back with them: it is what the
two were matched on, so it is already equal.

The scan returns uid -> id rather than a set of UIDs, since updating
needs something to address, and creates and updates now share one
`maxObjectsInSet` budget the way contacts' `writeCards` does -- 300 new
and 300 changed batched separately would be two calls of 300, neither
over a ceiling of 500 and both refused. Counts become created/updated,
reported as the contacts import reports them.

Still no scheduling messages, on an update as much as on a create. That
is a real cost -- an event a re-import moves is moved here and nowhere
else -- and it is the lesser one: an import is not the place to start
mailing a room full of people who never asked for it.

Driven against the mock end to end: a second file with the same UID
updated the event in place, took the file's title, start and location,
and left an accepted RSVP and a per-occurrence override untouched even
though the file carried participants of its own.

web/src/locales/nl.ts

@@ -1376,8 +1376,7 @@ export const catalog: Catalog = {
     "Your administrator changed {n} settings": { one: "Uw beheerder heeft {n} instelling gewijzigd", other: "Uw beheerder heeft {n} instellingen gewijzigd" },
     "Exported {n} events": { one: "{n} afspraak geëxporteerd", other: "{n} afspraken geëxporteerd" },
     "Imported {n} events": { one: "{n} afspraak geïmporteerd", other: "{n} afspraken geïmporteerd" },
-    "Already here: {n} events, nothing imported": { one: "Al aanwezig: {n} afspraak, niets geïmporteerd", other: "Al aanwezig: {n} afspraken, niets geïmporteerd" },
-    "{n} were already here": { one: "{n} was er al", other: "{n} waren er al" },
+    "Updated {n} events, nothing new": { one: "{n} afspraak bijgewerkt, niets nieuws", other: "{n} afspraken bijgewerkt, niets nieuws" },
     "{n} messages": { one: "{n} bericht", other: "{n} berichten" },
     "{n} selected": { one: "{n} geselecteerd", other: "{n} geselecteerd" },
     "{n} conversations": { one: "{n} gesprek", other: "{n} gesprekken" },